So Sad

I'm sure you've seen this in the news--an 8 year old boy walking home from day camp in Brooklyn was murdered.  Alledgedly he ran into this man outside a dentist office and asked him for help.  I can not imagine what that little boys parents are going through.  The little boy begged them to let him walk home alone.  They rehearsed the route and agreed to it if they met half way.  Despite this, he got lost, and he never got home.  I keep thinking about them waiting for him to show up for the meeting.  I'm sure they started looking for him but when there are so many blocks, so many wrong turns--where do you start?  In retrospect they deeply regret that decision but can not go back to correct their fatal mistake.

I think about my little, soon to be 8 year old boy.  There are people out there who are sick and would take advantage of a child in the wrong place at the wrong time.  I hope that we are teaching him to make the right choices.  I hope that we are teaching him how to make the right decision.  In our homes, they are protected.  In our homes, they are loved.  In our homes, we don't have to worry about the people that will hurt our son.  Yet, we must let them venture.  We must let them experience the ways of the world.  They will be hurt and they will make the wrong choice sometimes.  It makes me sick to my stomache that those parents made a decision that their son was ready--he wasn't and it cost him and them with his life.  How can we know?  How can we protect them at every turn?

If I could talk to his parents, I would tell them, "How could you know?"  God be with you.

Inspriation

I met someone today.  Her name is Sherri and she is a great conversationalist, she is pretty and she is very talented.  She is a massage therapist and specializes in pressure points to remove pain.  When I scheduled the apointment with Sherri she informed me that she had been in a car accident which severed her spine, relegating her to a wheel chair for the rest of my life.  At the time, I didn't really think about this revelation.  As she wheeled down the hall to her room, I heard the hand wheels squeeking and I wondered why she did not have a motorized chair.  I must admit that her phone voice isn't as friendly and welcoming as she is in person.  The name of her business is Mystical Mermaid.  Such an appropriate name for a business run by someone who can not use her legs.  Her room was welcoming, beautiful and had many exquisite mermaids.  As she massaged the knots out of my muscles we talked about a shared passion beading.  We talked about the fact that she wants to bead her own urn.  We talked about preparing ourselves for death.

I mentioned that I would like my Sister to see her next time she is in town as she experiences chronic neck pain and can not wear necklaces.  She asked if Laurie was injured in a car accident and I said yes.  She then described her injuries due to her car accident-- a severed spine accompanied by mistakes by doctors.  At that point in her life she could have made the choice to use her paralysis as an excuse.  She could have taken the many medications to manage pain.  Instead she learned a new skill to help her to manage her own pain and now uses that skill in her business.  She hasn't stopped there, she is taking classes to learn an ancient Chinese therapy.  

I left her office inspired by a woman who chose to live a full life in spite of her handicap.  She is a woman who is not bitter or angry.  She is very matter of fact about the accident that left her paralyzed.  She is inspring and damn good at what she does.

Intentions

I believe that your personal intentions, actions and beliefs are reflections that you use to judge other people in your life.  Here are examples:

1.  If your significant is insanely jealous, it's because they are cheating on you.  Thus, the know they are doing it so they totally expect you to do it.  This only applies to insanely jealous.  We all have moments of insecurity every once in a while, I mean the person that believes everyone you come into contact with is a threat.

2.  Liars believe everyone lies.

3.  Religiously we think that everyone has the same beliefs or that they should belief what you do.  When you look at the basic premise of most religions, they are very similar.  Why?  Because human decency is easily defined.  Also, this may be my own reflection, but I do believe that evil exists thus the need to protect ourselves physically and spiritually from that evil. 

This list could go on forever.  When I hear of someone, insisting that someone else intentionally hurt them, conspired or had alterior motives, I know that that person had those intentions, thus they are projecting those on others due to the reflection from their mirror.  That's all I have to say about that.